BARRIERS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

As an adult, you often need to communicate more than ever. You are important to your family and your friends may ask you how they can contact you if you cannot reach them. our lives so busy that it's hard to give time to your family. 



4 common barriers to effective communication 


1. Not communicating properly 



One of the biggest communication barriers is not communicating properly. If you stay quiet without any reason you will be at loss either you lose your loved one or an opportunity. You have to understand others 


2. Physical Distancing or Time Spent at Work



A physical distance is a difference between two people in the same line of sight. When working together it may be easier to move away from each other to maintain social distancing. A close relationship can help foster more intimate relationships and allow us to spend more time together. To keep ourselves safe, it's important to set boundaries and set limits on time spent together. For instance, if it's going to take 20 minutes to reply to a text message, it's best to let a colleague know you'll be available at that time. However, when planning a vacation together, it's important to separate time, so if you decide to go somewhere in 3 hours, you could book the hotel room directly rather than renting a car separately.

Sometimes, it may also be difficult to schedule shared activities together. Sometimes people may see their colleagues who may be doing something at home as a conflict, leading to arguments and misunderstandings. Other times, when employees are forced into office life by circumstances beyond their control, schedules are constantly adjusted just to accommodate everyone. Maybe we just have a lot that needs to be taken care of in a short time. Regardless of how complicated things become during times like these, I believe that sharing is healthy. The more you share the more you grow, and this will show in how much better your relationships with others are.


3. Distractions or Limitations



We often assume that only adults can be distractions to us, but unfortunately, this isn't always true. Many teenagers and young adults are very busy and they need to be fully focused. They tend to listen to music, watch videos, check multiple emails at once, and scroll on Facebook.


As an adult, I noticed that while I was trying to focus on something, my brother would turn on his phone and start watching YouTube videos. He's still a teenager, but we can tell that he's had a whole day of distractions. There are several reasons why teens may have trouble paying attention. For example, maybe they've been sleeping poorly, stressed out about a test or homework or they've been eating too much food, causing them to forget things more easily.


It can be challenging to hold onto your attention when you're distracted and need to multitask. Try using the Pomodoro technique to help give yourself the mental energy to pay attention to work. It involves setting aside 25-minute breaks every 45 minutes. Then after those breaks have passed, you switch back to reading. Use the timer and mark off the 25-minute break as well. By breaking up the activity into small chunks, you won't be able to lose track of your time.


If you find yourself getting distracted, remember to take stock of the situation before putting your phone down. Your brain is processing information differently when you use your hands, instead of staring at a screen. Taking 10 five-minute breaks from your phone before you go to bed is a good rule of thumb to ensure you stay focused. Be mindful of distractions even when you shouldn't feel tempted to give in to them because you want to do everything possible to give yourself time to finish your tasks. Don't miss opportunities to connect with your loved ones even when work comes calling. Take regular breaks throughout your days to prevent burnout. It helps you to relax your body and mind.


If you notice yourself being less attentive, you might want to take note of ways you can compensate yourself and/or your partner. Some examples include reducing the number of activities you have planned for tomorrow and making the decision to get rid of items that aren't used anymore. Or perhaps you will want to increase your efforts at work today, so you can make tomorrow productive. Whatever changes you can implement to improve your behavior will benefit both of you in the long run. While it may seem selfish initially, it's OK to think about your feelings first. Talk about it together, but also take time to process it in your head and then discuss it with your spouse or significant other. You can work on solutions together later if needed. Before jumping to conclusions, remember that everyone is human and has vulnerabilities. When working together with others, it's natural to struggle with some of the behaviors or assumptions you bring up. Don't judge yourself harshly for mistakes. You may realize that you were focusing on your kids or your dog's poop over here. Think about how far you've come and recognize that there may have been times in the past when you fell short. Remember how much you still have to learn about the world.


4. Negative Comments or Opinions


Negative comments or opinions on the internet can come from people you care about that you may not want to share with your loved ones. They may think you don't give them credit where necessary or you don't think of them when making plans. People may feel offended if you disagree with their opinion or make choices about certain events. They may misinterpret your feedback and make assumptions. Or some cases, they may be deliberately hurtful and may try to hurt you in return.

Some negative comments are based on false information, which can potentially injure your reputation. For example, an Internet troll may say things like " You really are stupid if you believe [insert person], right? He/she probably hasn't thought about [insert issue] before." or "She/he must be jealous of me." Not to mention that "You haven't asked many questions, huh? And if you haven't asked questions, you really are boring. Wait until you ask [insert question]." Even though you may be responding positively when commenting on these kinds of posts, it's always wise to double-check with a friend who knows you well to ensure your comment is actually meant positively. If you are upset about something and you notice that you are inclined to blame someone or something, consider reaching out to a trusted person instead. Do not let someone's name drive you insane. It makes sense to trust in your instincts, but if you receive bad advice or don't know what's best for you, consider reaching out. Most importantly, let yourself vent at least once. That way you can be vulnerable and release any pent-up emotions you may harbor for whatever reason. Doing so can help you heal and release negative thoughts.

The last thing you want is to appear weak as people are prone to compare themselves to others, particularly children. Someone may be comparing you to a famous person they idolize, or someone they despise, which can cause distress and anxiety. So it's important not to fall victim to comparison.


If you find out someone is going through a tough time and you feel angry, consider being supportive instead of jumping to conclusions. Instead of judging, try asking them what's wrong to ease their pain. It's better to approach them in a supportive manner and not treat them like a child! If you can relate to the other party, you can reassure them that caring for themselves is okay and there's nothing to worry about if they're struggling.